The Truth About
Restriction. Deprivation. Limitation. Force. Restraint.
How do these words make you feel? Stressed. Exhausted. Rebellious. These are all synonyms of the word, control, something often associated with eating.
We Often Use Control Around:
Dieting - portion control or calorie restriction.
Clean eating - we avoid “bad” unprocessed foods in favor of “good” clean foods.
Of course, I always promote eating healthy foods! But if you’re eating for any reason other than hunger, controlling your eating isn’t the solution.
For example, if you have a challenged relationship with your body image or self-confidence, controlled eating isn’t the solution. In fact, it can take you further away and disconnect you even more from your body because what your body really wants is for you to tune in and listen to what it needs.
Your body often wants you to do the deeper work rather than seeking out the latest program or diet that claims to solve your “problems.”
So, what’s the deeper work?
Explore what you’re truly hungry for. What do you as an individual want and need in your whole life? Pleasure, companionship, comfort, connection, and fun are just a few things that we may lean on food to replace. Food can be a symbolic substitute for these wants, needs, desires.
Explore how you feel about your body. How do you talk to your body? How do you treat it? What are your beliefs around food and body image?
Controlled eating is usually a behavior driven by how we feel about our bodies. We’re either constantly trying to change them or maintain them. We are more than our bodies.
All we’ve ever been taught is control, control, control. Eat smaller portions, resist temptation, cut out carbs. But what happens when the 30 day challenge is over? Many of us do well with short term plans to improve our eating. Yet over time we may fall back on our old food behaviors because we didn’t address our hungers beyond physical hunger.
You’re not a “failure” if the typical strategies haven’t worked for you. It’s the outdated strategies that have failed you. When you take the time to explore what you’re truly hungering for and how you feel about food and your body, it can lead you to the life of ease that you truly crave.
To your happiness and health,